This one's for you.
The other day, my friend invited me to go on vacation with her. Instantly, my mind went to a negative place.
"She's only inviting me because she's asked everyone else, and they couldn't make it. I'm a last resort."
In case you can't tell, I'm a pessimist. But then, it came to my mind...
Even if I'm right about being a last resort, hey! she still asked me to come to her house! Even if I'm the last person she thought of inviting, she still wants me to come. So that's worth something.
So I said "yes."
As it turned out, she was talking to me last night, and she told me that her dad asked her why she'd chosen me, out of all her friends, to go with her on vacation. Her response astounded and affirmed me.
"I told him that I invited you because you want to grow spiritually, and you encourage me to grow spiritually." She gave me other reasons, too, that convinced me that yes, she does value being around me.
Isn't it strange how human minds seem to assume the worst? I was making myself miserable over something that wasn't even true.
So, dear warrior, I'm going to make a conscious effort to be an optimist. Not an optimist in that I am happy-go-lucky and refuse to accept that there's pain in my life, but an optimist in that I don't want to always assume the negative and make myself miserable.
Here begins Day 1 of changing the path of my thoughts.