An Introspective Interview

So tell me, what are your ideas on love?

Oh boy, let me see here.  The thing is, I'm going to try not to give you a jaded answer.  I mean, I could give you a spiel about all my past relationships and how I think about my exes, but that's not answering the question.  The question of love runs a lot deeper than that, I think.  It goes beyond the thoughts and words and connotations that we're used to.  I think it really comes down to action.  Love is a continuous stream of actions; if you love someone, there is always something that you're doing, something you're giving up for that person.  When this cycle of actions stops flowing, I think that's where most relationship problems start.

What about the thoughts, words and connotations?

People say a lot of things.  When it comes to our emotions, there are so many hackneyed, unoriginal phrases.  "I could never live without you" is one.  It's a thought that seems very profound and deep, but at the same time everyone says it.  Even the phrase "I love you" just becomes water without ice after a while.  The thing is, we can't let ourselves fall into the habit of these... crutches, for lack of a better word.  All these phrases and words and thoughts, they are crutches for how we really feel.  I believe George Orwell talked about it once.  It was in his Principles of Newspeak, if I remember correctly.  We need to think about our emotions in a deep way and find a way to express them that is original and will not fall prey to the connotations.  I'll get to that later.

You want to be an entrepreneur, can you tell us more?

You know, to tell you the truth, I have no idea what I'm going to be doing in five, ten, even twenty years.  I think entrepreneurship is an extremely enticing pursuit, but I don't know what all that entails.  I have to find the right ideas, the right people, the right motivation.  There's a lot of thought that has to go into that before I can really make a move.  I really want to live my purpose.

What are your ideas about finding your purpose?

I think finding one's purpose is like growing a vast garden.  You have to try a lot of different fruits and vegetables before you find the ones that are the most rewarding to grow.  The problem a lot of people face (and I face as well) is that it's hard to force yourself into unknown territory.  We all like to stick with what we know, but finding your purpose requires plenty of exploration in uncharted waters.  I don't know if I'm quite ready for that.

So back to the connotations...

About love?  I think a more appropriate phrase would be 'cultural ideas.'  In American culture, we are taught that it is proper to find someone to marry while we are in college.  In fact, we are taught to make numerous life-altering decisions in college.  It's as if the major decisions of life are being capitalized on by our own culture.   You know what?  I think it's more important for people to discover themselves and to live independently for a while before finding someone to 'tie the knot.'  If we rush ourselves, we're not going to be prepared for that commitment. And that's another huge problem among young Americans; we think we need a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife to be somebody.  And the worst part is that many people become emotionally dependent on relationships; the relationship in and of itself becomes the source of happiness and balance in one's life.  It's just not the way to live.

What do you think about marriage?

Marriage is a beautiful thing.  The problem is a lot of people aren't ready for it.  They rush because they are afraid of being alone, and then they can't handle the big problems when they come up.  Add on a few kids and a few thousand dollars of financial strain; when the going gets tough, the couple has to be tougher.

Let's take a break form the rough stuff.  What do you do for fun?

Fun?  What's fun?  I kid, but honestly I don't know if I can single out one activity.  I like going on drives with my friends, I like to go boating, I play video games, the usual stuff a college kid would do in his spare time.  In general, I enjoy having a good time with good friends I can count on.

What about music?

What about it?  

How and/or what is your relationship with music? Is it fun?

I don't think it's any secret that I'm a die-hard Coldplay fan.  I've been asking myself 'why' recently.  I think it's because their music is very sincere and honest; as long as there is Coldplay, I will always have faith in humanity.  But music in general?  That's a bit harder to answer.  My relationship with music has been strange lately.  I don't know what to think about composing, playing the violin, playing the piano or singing. I don't know if I should think of it all as just a hobby or as some kind of seg-way into a greater calling.  It is fun.  I've definitely had my share of fun playing and performing music.  We'll just see what time does with it.

So how do you feel about studying it (music) in college?

You know, people put so much emphasis on what your major is these days.  I'm a Violin Performance Major, and people say "What on earth are you going to do with that?"  And ya know I think it has more to do with "What can't you do with it?"  That's the important question you need to be asking.  Just because I'm a performance major doesn't mean I want to audition for orchestras around the world and play wedding gigs for the rest of my life.  In fact, I will confide in you that I haven't the slightest interest in pursuing that kind of career, though I wouldn't mind doing it for fun.  I'm just a guy who knows a thing or two about playing the violin.  All I'm doing right now is trying to figure out who I am and where my interests lie.   You never know; maybe I'll be the next Steve Jobs.

That's quite a gamble, isn't it?

I don't see any dice.  But seriously, how many kids really know what they're doing in college?  Twenty years from now, how many kids are going to be making a career out of the major they studied in college?  I think entrepreneurship is becoming more and more appealing to young Americans, and I honestly think that that is the direction this country needs to go.  This is a country built on the solid rock of entrepreneurship, not job slots that are available directly out of college.

So what's the biggest lesson you've learned in college so far?

Before I came here, I was under the impression that college was the cure-all.  I thought that all my problems would be solved and that I would be happier than ever before.  I cannot begin to explain to you how wrong I was.  I was actually really confused during the first month; I was thinking "Why isn't everything great like I imagined it?"  I imagined college as an escape from my problems, I envisioned myself on the perfect career track with a perfect new girlfriend at my side; I'd destroyed the Death Star!  No, but seriously, I think I was a little bit delusional, and the truth is we all get that way when we know something big is about to change.  I learned that no matter where I am and who I'm with, my problems will follow me until I solve them.

Alright, we're gonna take a short break and be right back with some more thought-provoking questions.  

The End

2 comments about this story Feed