If You Love Her

If you love a woman, if you truly love her,
There are some things you will do.

You will physically express your love for her.

You will smile and laugh with her.

You will listen to her and encourage her.

You will work out disagreements with her.

You will surprise her with gifts (physical or otherwise).

You will tell her to love herself for who she is.

You will comfort her on her bad days.

You will always be honest with her.

You will forgive her for her mistakes.

You will understand her deepest conflicts and fears.

You will understand her greatest joys and sorrows.

You will strive to know every nuance of her personality.

You will always defend her.

You will ease any pain she is feeling.

You will wait for her.

If you love a woman, if you truly love her,
There are also things you will not do.

You will not deny her love for you.

You will not purposefully harm her (emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually).

You will not disrespect her or her area of expertise.

You will not embarrass her.

You will not court another.

You will not leave her.

You will not speak unkindly of her behind her back.

You will not make her feel insignificant.

You will not make promises that you cannot keep.

You will not break the promises that you make.

You will not hide matters from her, little or large.

You will not antagonize her.

You will not use her for an ulterior motive.

You will not be demanding of her.

You will not allow anything to compromise your dedication to her.


These are the things a man must remember when he tells a woman that he loves her. The word love is an extremely misunderstood term in today's world.  The word can roll off our tongues without a single thought about it's implications.  If you find difficulty in keeping any part of the credo above, think twice before you tell a woman that you love her.  Love is demanding, and what many couples settle for in this day and age is often very far from love.

It doesn't matter if a relationship is "meant to be".  

If you love a woman, if you truly love her, these are the things you will and will not do.

The End

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