"Out is in." Out Is In Coming out is a challenge that can be applied to many aspects of life, of one’s personality. What causes us to present the way we do? How do we adopt and represent culture? What causes us to come out as who we truly are? I believe it is the quintessential dilemma that we face. If the purchase of a house is the largest financial transaction that most people make in their lives, then buying into a persona and living that life is the largest spiritual transaction we make.